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After watching this week’s episode of Law & Order: SVU, I was reminded of Rep. Todd Akin’s “legitimate rape” theory.  When his controversial statement first went public, I disregarded the entire thing as trash.  I gave no attention to Todd Akin and “legitimate rape” because I didn’t want to waste my time contemplating such a garbage and ridiculous statement.

Less than a year later, here I am, putting some time and thought into this “legitimate rape” theory.  The expert witness on SVU testified that “the body shuts down ovulation under stress of legitimate rape.”  And wait- it gets better- one juror actually bought this nonsense and obstructed the conviction… of a rapist.

Here’s my problem: Todd Akin apologized and “took back” his words because he was hurting the Republican party AND Mitt Romney.  But I’m sure Akin still believes in legitimate rape… I mean, it takes more than a public outrage to change a person’s personal opinion.  With that said, there is probably a handful… or a group of… people out there who believe in this legitimate rape myth that has been chiefly propagandized by Dr. John Willke.  Willke has been published in fringe anti-abortion journals and strongly promotes the notion that women rarely become pregnant after being raped because of natural physiological defenses against pregnancy.

Ok, so we are supposed to believe that rape victims can control whether or not they get pregnant after a rape… because apparently they are so emotionally traumatized that their eggs can’t be fertilized… by mind control.  Yes- and I just became the Queen of Nova Scotia.

When a woman sticks to her story and says she was raped, we can at least give her the benefit of the doubt and fairly see the case in court.  And if she’s pregnant and decides to keep the baby, well that sits as evidence of the rape.  Certainly… it does not mean that because she is pregnant, she wasn’t raped.  There just… isn’t logic connecting the two ends.

If anything, this whole “legitimate rape” theory seems to kick itself repeatedly.  Think about it this way- let’s say legitimate rape is true.  Well, we can’t really count on physiological functions to be accurate all the time because things happen.  And so a woman gets raped, her physiological reaction is “broken” at the time and she gets pregnant by her rapist.  Now, she can’t cry rape because she’s pregnant… which means her rape wasn’t legitimate.  Shoot.  What does she do now?  ABORTION (maybe illegally depending on the laws in this “legitimate rape” world”).  Wait, I’m sorry, but isn’t this whole legitimate rape idea supporting pro-life?  I think that wall just fell down… just as the Berlin Wall collapsed…

The victim in SVU has to continually suffer and face her rapist (for child visitation rights) due to that one juror who believed in the botched theory.  So this is fiction, it’s going to happen in real-life one of these days.  And what if it happens to you?  to your friend?  to a family member?

There is absolutely no basis in Willke’s theory.  I am not really sure where he got those funky ideas from, but to be honest, one has to be pretty stupid to buy it.  And sure he is a doctor, but he is not a female.  What does he know about being raped and the consequences of rape (emotionally and physically)?  Does he really know what goes on in a woman’s mind and body during rape?  The answer is NO.  Only rape victims know… because they experience the torture first-hand.  Willke really has no right to judge whether or not a rape was legitimate.

Please don’t believe this “legitimate rape” trash… it’s like believing Nazism.

If you do, I just might have to pull out the “Chewbacca defense.”

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I usually read entertainment news carelessly because it’s gossip- we believe what we want to believe.  But recently, Park Si-hoo, a Korean actor, is in the spotlight for rape.  Whether or not the allegations against him are true is not what I’m concerned with because I leave that sort of stuff to law enforcement, aka people who have expertise on investigating and judging these cases.  What I am concerned with is the reaction from Koreaboos to this story.

To be honest, I did not even know about this news until I saw posts after posts after posts from Park Si-hoo fans defending him on tumblr.  Why should I care?  People have the right to express their opinions, right?  Well, I am concerned with what the concept of “Korea” has done to these Koreaboos.  Kpop fanatics and Koreaboos have never been on my good side… the crazed mindset that they MUST go to Korea to find their “oppa” and the shameful pronunciations of random Korean words learned from dramas have always irked me.

I never believed that those crazy, obsessive behaviors would develop into … the ideology they believe in nowadays.  And the Park Si-hoo case clearly showcases their new values and beliefs.  Think about it this way- if the characters in this story were replaced with everyday average joes, no one would care about who raped who… and even if people did care, the accused is usually at fault (I do account for those once in a blue moon times where the girl cries wolf).  However, because this involves Park Si-hoo, a high-profile actor- wait, no- a KOREAN high-profile actor, suddenly the victim is blamed for being drunk and Park Si-hoo, the precious “oppa” is incapable of raping.

For those of you who do not know about the case, here is the story in a nutshell: a 22 year old aspiring starlet met Park Si-hoo at a bar, got super drunk, Park Si-hoo then took her home with him, she passed out in his apartment, woke up and alleges that Park Si-hoo raped her while she was unconscious.  As in most rape cases, the accused usually denies the allegations.

To me, this sounds like any other rape case I would read in the newspaper in any given country.  But because this took place in KOREA and involved a hot Korean actor, the story is viewed differently by Koreaboos.  Suddenly, Koreaboos think they are experts of the law in Korea and analyze the “rape laws, statistics, and age of consent” in Korea.  My question is, why do those even matter???  Rape is rape EVERYWHERE, and no matter the country, rape is NOT okay.  Also, the victim is 22 years old- age of consent is not a problem.  She is an adult- I mean, 30+ year old women get raped too and no one seems to care.  This girl is 22 and suddenly her age matters, for technicality, because the guy who she claims raped her “would never do such a thing.”  If such a high-profile case took place here in the US, I doubt people would analyze the laws and statutes as much as these Koreaboos are doing now.  We all know that this case is being magnified because it is in Korea and it involves a “hot oppar.”

It is highly unacceptable to pull random and false information out of nowhere in order to justify Park Si-hoo’s actions.  We don’t even know the whole story!  These Koreaboos believe what they want to believe, but rape cases are different.  They can’t just stick to their mindset that Park Si-hoo cannot do any wrong.  They need to open their minds and understand that there is a possibility he may be at fault.  I hate to break it to Koreaboos, but Park Si-hoo is human.  There was one post where a fan stated that even if Park Si-hoo did rape the girl, the girl is at fault too because she was drunk.  Okay, so she was drunk… doesn’t mean Park Si-hoo has a right to rape her.  She may have been unconscious but she wasn’t “inviting rape” by being drunk.

Another post claimed that Park Si-hoo is so hot and sexy that he “doesn’t need to rape women” and that the woman getting “raped by Park Si-hoo is lucky.”  Um- I think the problem with that statement is blatantly obvious.  When you’re famous and sexy, it doesn’t mean you get pardoned for rape.  In a country where “saving face” is really important, this girl was brave for coming out with this accusation… especially against a high-profile actor.  She finds the courage to step up and all these Koreaboos make her out to be the bad guy.

Koreaboos- have you no shame?  I’m starting to think “your kind” needs an ethics class… to teach you what ethics and morality are.

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This past week was International Education Week (Nov. 12-16)- a week dedicated to demonstrating the importance of studying abroad  and going international.

International Education Week means a lot to me because going abroad changed my life and I do not know who I would have been today had I not gone abroad.  With that said, I highly encourage everyone to study abroad at least once in their lives- you will learn so much and open your mind.

Every day, I am thankful to CIEE, The Korea Foundation, NSLI-Y, iEARN, YesInternational, and the Department of State for giving me the opportunity to have the experiences of a lifetime.  Without the support of these organizations, I would not have been able to go out of my bounds and into a new and unfamiliar culture.

The impact of my experiences is beyond words.  I started out going to South Korea because of curiosity and desire to go somewhere, ANYWHERE.  But that changed within a couple of days of being in South Korea- I quickly became interested in the culture and the people.  By the end of my stay, I had fostered a passion for learning about the relationship between the North and the South.  The second time I traveled to SK, I was prepared to study and learn everything about South Korea- I hoped to gain a true understanding of the country.  And now, I continue to study Korean on my own.  Why?  So that I can help defectors.  I will talk about this in a separate post because the issue deserves its own… but that’s my ultimate goal.

Can you believe that curiosity turned into compassion?  THIS is the impact of my study abroad.  Everyone will have different experiences and meet different people… but these will shape who you are and open your mind to a new level that you do not know you are capable of.

So… do it.  Study abroad and go international.  After all, the celebration of this week is to encourage more people to think beyond by opening themselves up to the world out there.  You will be impacted differently from me, but that’s what makes each and every one of us unique.

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The issue of ethics was brought up in my Business Law class recently- it got me thinking, “can ethics really win the battle of right vs. wrong?”

Ethics has always been an iffy topic because it digs deep into the innermost core of humans.  In any discussion, people will always say the same old words of wisdom, “do what is right… because it is the moral thing to do” and then give you the golden rule.  That’s just bullshit.  I mean, really???  People say this stuff all the time but don’t truly believe in it… so they don’t follow their own words of wisdom.  I have rarely, RARELY, met people who are truly ethical and moral ALL the time.  And by the way, these people are also the people who get picked on and tricked by quite frequently by the rest of the world, who are unethical, and to be blunt, evil.

Quite frankly, we still possess the trait of “survival of the fittest” from our ancestors- that trait is certainly not disappearing anytime soon in our human gene pool.  Let’s face it, we live in a world where everything is set up as Man vs. Man.  For example, a simple task of buying groceries is a battle- picking the best apples, grabbing the last box of cereal, etc.  We are a selfish species and knowing what’s better for society as a whole isn’t going to make us any less selfish.

We are taught to repeatedly spit out the rules of ethics and criticize others on their ethical behavior, but each and every one of us never follow these rules ourselves.  All of us have done something unethical at least once in our lives so far.  And why did we do it?  For personal reasons.

I’m not saying that being ethical is impossible but that it is something that will probably never prevail completely in our society.  1, 3, 70, 100 people in society can be ethical, but what about everyone else?  There is no way we can get the billions of people in our society to change their thinking and behavior; in fact, we can’t change what’s on the inside.

There will always be right and wrong.  I mean, we can’t have right if we don’t have wrong… and both are equal within us.  There are times when we choose to be ethical… and of course there are times when we choose not to be ethical.  We all have excuses and reasons as to why we acted in an unethical behavior but they don’t matter- we are simply human.  Humans make mistakes, humans are good, humans are bad, etc.  There are a variety of aspects of the human species that we are not really clear about.  It’s okay.  Step 1 is figuring out who we are- without denial and just being honest to ourselves, that’s the least we can do.

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I moved back to school about 2 weeks ago (omg time flies) and I can already tell that this semester is going to drive me nuts- NUTS I TELL YOU.

The first week I moved back was filled with PA training from AM to PM.  Seriously… everyday was training, eat, sleep… training, eat, sleep… etc etc.  That was miserable- and then I had to help move-in freshman… let’s just say that move-in left bruises, body aches, cuts, and blisters.

This past Wednesday, THE FALL SEMESTER STARTED.  omg- I think it just hit me that I’m taking 18 units this semester.  And all my classes seem pretty hardcore- no joke.  I’ve been assigned so much reading already… and the semester just started… I’VE ONLY BEEN TO MY CLASSES ONCE EACH… and I have so much reading already.  I don’t know how I’m going to do this-

Plus, I just found out that I have an internship too- so… that means my schedule is super packed this semester.  I AIN’T LOOKIN’ FORWARD TO THIS.

Basically, I’ve realized that my semester boils down to nothing else but read, sleep, study, eat, shower, PA duties, and work.  Dude… what did I sign myself up for.  ((O_____O))

It’s probably going to get worse from here on… so better start crackin’ the books now than later, huh?

OH and I hope to continue blogging throughout the semester- but I feel like I won’t have enough time.

*sigh*  PEACE OUT, I’m going to go do some of those readings that I was assigned to do…

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One thing that I suck at is making decisions.  But once I make a decision, I am very firm with my choice.  It’s just the process that eats at me.

As of this moment, I am near the Canadian border visiting Niagara University.  I’ll be honest, this school was nothing like I expected.  This school is more amazing than I thought it would be.  Basically, I spent the entire day touring the campus and figuring out what I am going to do with the degree I get for my major from this school.

Aside from the issue that’s been tearing me apart, between San Diego and Niagara, the school is absolutely what I am looking for.  Though it was quite chilly today with the light snow and heavy winds, the environment and air feels comfortable.  I don’t feel stuffed up at all, which is good because I love the constant feeling of fresh air going into my lungs.  Come on… it’s upstate NY, who doesn’t like the relaxing, isolated feel for a getaway?  Okay, it’s not an exotic location, but it certainly allows you to reflect… kind of like Uppercross for Anne in Jane Austen’s Persuasion.

Originally, from the photos of the school that I saw online, I didn’t think NU was going to be anything spectacular.  Let’s face it, the school is pretty damn old and the buildings looked like they needed to be washed pronto. But after being here and seeing the campus first-hand, I’ve realized that the oldness is what makes this school special.  Maybe the architecture of NU is not Spanish Renaissance style like it is at San Diego, but this old brick style is unique here at NU.  Walking around campus, I felt like I was living in some old European town.  In a way, the isolation here, the gated campus, the old buildings, and the nice people gave me a feeling of being “at home.”  Also, I wanted to elaborate on the nice people.  The nicest people award definitely has to go to this school.  Even before coming here, the attention and attitude that I was given over the phone was absolutely amazing.  These staff members really know how to convince people to come to their school.  Once here today, I found these people just as, maybe even more, kind than over the phone.  I felt like everyone in this community wanted, from the goodness of their heart, to help others.  Getting lost?  Questions?  Just ask.  Anyone on campus is willing to answer your questions and direct you to where you need to get to.

Honestly, I just can’t express how much I love it here at NU.  I recall yesterday, I was nervous about the visiting today.  I kind of didn’t want to visit… speaking that I thought that I had already made a decision with San Diego.  But I figured I might as well check this place out since my parents already drove me here.  Little did I know that seeing this school would greatly impact my decision.  I’m not saying this is definite yet, but I mean, now NU and USD are on the same level.  What do I do?  At one school, I will pursue the MBA, at the other school, I will pursue the MS- the only difference between the schools.  If anything, visiting this school just made my life that much harder… because now, I have to make a decision… one that will impact my future for the next 5 years (at least!).  I wish I could visit San Diego… or I wish I could have a sign telling me what to do.

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What I don’t understand is where some people get the idea that “white people are superior.”  And don’t tell me about eurocentricity, because that is definitely not the only source.  There must be… other “things” helping to form this kind of thinking among people.  And besides, if the superiority of a race was really based on technological advancement, I’m pretty sure the Japanese are ahead of all of us.  But then, that doesn’t explain why Asians are bombarded against these days, just as much as the Blacks and Hispanics.  In fact, Blacks and Hispanics are probably more accepted than Asians in society  due to affirmative action.

Though I’ve grown up in a predominantly white community, I’ve never experienced a significant amount of racism directed towards me.  In fact, most people never really cared that I was not white.  But, I’ve noticed that, in my 4 years of high school, I’ve started to get a little more racist attacks.  And the thing is that these racist antics are not even from my peers… rather, they are from teachers and staff members of the school.  I mean, these adults have never outright called me “chink” or done anything/say anything racist to me, but it’s the treatment that I receive as opposed to that of a white student.

For example, today, I was randomly stopped as I went through the library to get to the computer room.  One of the librarians called me out on where I was coming from and the other one, who I passed already and said nothing to me, suddenly looked over at me and told me that I shouldn’t pass through the library to get to the computer room.  Then, they both moved on to ask me why I did that.  Of course, I shut them both up by saying that the computer room is usually locked and students have to go through the library to get in.  This incident didn’t surprise me completely.  Since I had a free 9th period last year, I’ve been the target of these librarians every time I step in.  This year started off fine.  No questions or anything, I just moved on about my business doing my work in the library and going to the computer lab.  And today, randomly, I get questioned about my activities.  I feel like a criminal around the library!  Every move I make is being watched, like they’re waiting for me to do something wrong.  I just don’t understand.  I am a model student pursuing my studies, using the resources that my parents paid for through tax.  So why am I pissed?  Because, from my observation, I am the only one subjected to such treatments.  And I’ve clearly noticed that I am different than everyone else: I’m not white.

My case is a minor one.  I’m not afraid of bringing the issue to my principal, who already knows how I feel about racism.  All it takes is for those librarians to strike me again and I will confront them about their racist actions towards me.  On the other hand, outside of school, there are far bigger issues.  I’ve heard about several issues where minorities were pulled over on the road or arrested by white cops just for being a different race.  Seriously, WTH?  Oh and you know these cases can never be fair, due to the fact that most government positions are held by white people (who might be racist)!

Don’t get me wrong, I am a person who accepts all races.  There are plenty of white people I know who are great friends of mine and I think are the sweetest, kindest, and loveliest people on earth.  But just as there is an angel, there is also a devil.

Something that I cannot stop thinking about is the ERASE Racism conference I participated in last June.  Andrew Young, the guest speaker, had said that racism can never be erased.

Essentially, “racism is like rape. The victim loses their dignity and the damage is beyond repair. The sad part is that neither racism nor rape will ever stop.”

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I’m in all honors and AP courses and one thing I’ve noticed is the obsession with getting into a brand-name school.  What is up with that?

Actually, I can’t really blame them… I was kind of/sort of programmed the same way, as all smart kids are- “you must go to an Ivy League to be successful!”  Well, until recently, I’ve realized that going to an Ivy really does not mean THAT much.

Think for a second, if you’re smart and talented… what will an Ivy do for you that an average Joe school will NOT do?  The answer is nothing.  Sure, Ivy’s always have better staff and resources, but that’s all because of money.  The school is so damn rich that it can afford to give you higher quality education… but that money is from the sky high tuition.  On the other hand, the average Joe school lacks in some of those resources… but because its tuition rates are not impossible to pay for by middle class families.  Get it?  The Ivy’s were DESIGNED for the wealthy- another sign of a class division in modern society.  Just saying.

Now, why am I so concerned with this?  Because I’m currently facing a problem regarding this topic.  You see, my scores qualify me to be in the applicant pool of Ivy Leagues… I have a chance.  BUT the problem is that my parents will definitely not be able to pay for my tuition to a high-priced school, especially after sending my sister to NYU (may I say, one of THE most expensive schools ever) for undergraduate, and now medical school.  As the second born, I automatically lose some education money from my parents. 😦

And that isn’t even the real issue.  I’m content with finding a low-priced school.  The opportunity cost of that would be a smaller school with less of a reputation.  My problem?  Adults in my life look down upon my decision.  I feel like once I put it out there, my college list that is, my teachers and counselors are shocked that I would do such a thing… put myself down so low.  Really, it’s none of their business what I choose to do, but I’m surprised to find that the name of a school matters THAT much to people.  Okay, if the economy was good, I’d go for it.  Hell I’d take a risk and apply to Harvard if times were good!  … But times are not, we are in a recession and financially, my parents just can’t afford to do it.  So over the past year, I’ve gotten used to the idea that I will have to go to a smaller school.  But the people around me can’t accept that… for some reason or another.

I mean, now I’m thinking, does having a Princeton degree give me an advantage over having a Canisius degree?  Of course!  But will my skill level change because of which degree I hold?  Certainly not.  If I am just as qualified as someone who graduated from Princeton, then why shouldn’t I be on the same playing field as them?  It’s enough that I see this, but I’m hoping that workplaces will soon realize this too.  No one should lose a chance just because he/she went to a small school.  If the skill is there, it is there- it’s not going to float away, trust me.

One thing is for certain: I will NOT let an Ivy define me.  I will define myself wherever I go.  I am aware of my own talents, strengths and skills and that is enough to get me far in life, I know it.  An Ivy diploma is merely a paper indicating that I was wealthy enough to go to a brand-name school, just as a Dior chiffon gown is merely an indication that I was wealthy enough to buy a brand-name item.

Don’t judge, please.  I don’t need anyone to make the choice for me, I can handle it on my own… because I know what I want and I’m going for it.

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