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Starting over isn’t as easy or magical as we may believe it to be.  It’s… a complicated path in which we move backwards from the present to the past.  In turn, the past becomes the present and the present becomes the future.  But this reversal of time is hard to accomplish successfully, similar to defying gravity.  We can’t simply break the laws of nature- we need a reason to… a good one.

Most of us start over because we want to let go of the past and start fresh.  We want a second chance, a third chance, perhaps more, at life.  But do more chances mean that we will make it right one of those times?  Do we deserve another chance?  Can we even have another chance?

We like to think that we possess the rights the answers of these questions, but we may not be the ones entitled to answer them.  Our society has taught us that we control our lives and our future… but do we really?  Our lives are interconnected with one another and every decision we make affects at least one other person.  If we think about it this way, then doesn’t that mean that our lives are partly controlled by the decisions of others?  Yes- and so we return to the question of who decides whether or not we receive another chance.

Starting over sounds simple.  In the past, I’ve vowed to start over several times.  Not once did I succeed… just like how I haven’t defied gravity yet either.  Time has taught me about starting over.  Starting over is something we want, naturally, when we’ve made mistakes.  For example, if our cake drops to the floor, don’t we want a new, clean piece of cake?  Surely we treat life the same way- we want to replace the marred one with a clean one.  But what happens when the baker refuses to give us a new piece, claiming that it was our fault for dropping our portion of the cake…

Second chances are hard to come by… and even when they do happen, they may not necessarily be a good thing.  Starting over… if we cherished our present then we wouldn’t wish to start over so often.  Things happen for a reason, even mistakes.  We fall, and sometimes our falls leave scars, but we get back up and walk on; there’s no need to crawl back to the beginning and try walking again without falling.  Instead, we continuously move forward and keep in mind not to fall as we did before.  Continuously moving forward will get us to our destination faster than constantly moving back and starting over.

In the end, our fates have already been determined… living is only the path to our fates.  Whether we continuously move forward or start over, we will end up where we are supposed to be.  After all, our lives are interconnected.  Even if we make a choice that leads us off the path of our fate, someone’s decision will bring us back on the right path.

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